What happens when a mom doesn't show up in court?
Any last thread of hope you may have had for her seems to disappear. In the beginning we hoping she had a chance. Now we are wondering how you could just leave such beautiful little girls.
This is the beginning of our fourth week with the duo. It is my turn to stay home until we get the girls into day care (should be next week). As I sit here I am seeing on the baby monitor my very apprehensive cat leap onto Sissy's bed during nap time and I don't have the heart to stop their moment as this is a first. We have had a tough 3 weeks. Maybe even the cats know that this may be for a very long time so they should get used to it.
Today it was confirmed by our Case Worker during her visit that their father is indeed incarcerated. Their grandmother was being looked at as a possible family visit, but that too was firmly a negative. The 7 year old sister will most likely go with her father's family soon and we are pretty much all these two have right now. Hopefully after the sister transitions we can maybe have some contact info to do some occasional visits.
At this point there is no movement to moving these two into any sort of permanency, it going to be limbo for a while until there is any direction one way or another. Their mom needs time to figure out which way her life is going before any direction can be set for these two. As we are licensed as a long term home we figured there would be some potential holidays and such, but now it is looking more real. As a early holiday shopper we have already started stashing items for birthdays and holidays. Squirrel and I have always spoiled each other, and we know we will want to spoil the girls too, but we get very little financial assistance from the state for birthdays and holidays. If you are interested, the actual amount given for Christmas is $25. The scouring of clearance aisles, discount stores, and Salvation Army has begun. We do need to start bringing the items in the house though... Squirrel's truck does not need to become Toyland. We also need to consider other things, like warmer clothes, booster seats so we can take the kids in both vehicles, new beds (on their way from a friend).
We did get solid times for the visits now so there will be no surprises. There will also be confirmation calls prior to visits so that we won't have too many no shows, but I don't think there will be too many visits. We also received the name of the kids' Child Advocacy Team so we will meet a lawyer soon.
In our day to day life we have been having some success with potty training! I did give Sissy a piece of chocolate for using the big girl potty this morning and she wanted another piece so she went back on the chair and would not get up. She was terribly upset that she couldn't go potty because she really wanted another piece of chocolate. At nap time today she didn't want to change into her pull-ups, but I really don't want to wash all her bedding daily.
Speaking of bedding, the kids helped me change all mine today! They really love helping. We have nearly the whole house kept clean, but our room and the music room. I think I can have our room clean this week and the music room clean next week and we will have our new normal in the house.
I must end the blog for today, I'm not sure how much more nap time I have left as the cat has wandered back into the girls' room and Bug is sitting on the floor loving it. I told Bug already that she can come downstairs and leave her sister sleep, but she didn't want to so it is only a matter of time before Sissy wakes as well.
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