July 23rd, that's the last time bioparents have visited the Duo. I guess On Monday, July 27th there was actually a visit with the older kids, but our girls were not taken to it because bio didn't call in to say that they would be there. So that's now 12 days with no visit! We will see what Thr brings.
Although we were desperately hoping that after biomom had her letter clearing her, that the visits would be moved downtown to the agency; where there is climate control (air conditioning) and more importantly.. a bathroom for Sissy to use as we are making great strides with using the potty. ... Hoping doesn't mean getting however; We were informed that when the visits continue, they will most likely be at the same place.. but that was not from our caseworker, it was our Transport worker, and we are hoping that she is wrong.
I wish that I could feel some confidence in the things that case workers and such tell me, like the time frame for one thing.. But I just cant seem to. I am still sort of expecting the 90 day review in court to be the day the Judge orders them to go back home with bio. All the workers seem to harbor the belief that this wont happen, but I don't feel 100 percent assured by them. But a little relief is better than none... and the wide open time frame is a hard thing.
Today Sissy actually informed me that she had to go to the bathroom again (as we were outside playing), I knew that she needed to poop as she had just went pee about 10 minutes before that. This is the first time she has taken a proactive step before pooing her pants, and I couldn't be happier!!
Sissy is also verbalizing quite often that she is happy, (and sometimes she says sad too). I think she is just now understanding emotions and relating them to he own situation. (we read a lot of emotion books, this may be helping). Tonight she said she was "So Happy" while playing after dinner, yesterday she said she was sad about Mommy and Daddy. When I asked her why, she couldn't really verbalize any further, so I just moved on to our discussion about how they would be living with us and we would keep them safe... etc. she then cheered right up. When asked she says she does like living here. She calls this house her home, and we are her family. This just must be so confusing for a kiddo. Poor Duo. I know that Foster kids become confused by loving both bio and Fosters, they can feel disloyal to bios to love Fosters, and that creates some issues. I just hope that ours are too young to have that split love confusion
We were quite sad ourselves when Sissy flooded our bathroom by stopping the sink and turning the water on full blast then leaving it running. Soon it was Raining quite heavy in our kitchen as water gushed through our kitchen light fixture and along the area above the sink. aack..
Funny how they keep you so busy that there is no time for the repairs of things that they have broken. The list grows.
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