Tiny Hulk

My poor angry Bug.  We are now at a record streak for parent and family visits and that has thrown our behavior in a tailspin.  The behavior isn't just at home, but she is also acting out at school.  She is defiant one minute and then clinging to you like a spider monkey the next (not that I have any clue what a spider monkey really does).

The only explanations we have for this behavior is: 1. she is two, and 2. the parent visits.  With Sissy we are having a few minor issues, but we are able to sit down and talk.  Bug is not at that point yet.  She tries, but can't have a serious conversation.  When topics are lighter she can just sit and have a chat, but when you ask how she is feeling she pushes away and storms off.

This isn't just a little anger, but this is her tiny Hulk inside her.  The growl comes from deep and it is unlike her other fussing.  We hadn't seen it in weeks, weeks since she would ball her little fists and be so angry.

Her lashing out is starting to be directed at us.  Particularly at times we have to care for her.  Dressing and diapers are terrible times.  Our usual happy to wear anything kid is becoming particular.  If you aren't careful you may be hit when putting on pajamas.  Changing a diaper is met with brutal kicks.

At school the behavior is coming out as not listening... I fear that the anger will be released there soon.  I am afraid that the daily reports that come back are no longer going to have the happy box checked.

We worked so hard over the past 4 months to help these girls find joy and laughter.  Now we are back to fighting off angry outbursts.

Typically we try to ignore the bad behavior as most is attention seeking.  It has helped guide them to good, normal behavior.  We also are extremely focused on good behavior and giving attention at those times.  Back rubs are given when sitting still, hugs randomly when playing nice... all reinforcements.  When Bug has her angry fits I am unable to ignore like the purposely bad behavior.  It is like she can't control the tiny Hulk.  I take her little body and quietly hold it tight as she struggles and is so tense and she finally melts and is back to herself.  You can just feel the tension in her.

I can't wait for the next court date to arrive.  Maybe then the visits will start to be missed again and we can have our happy little toddler back.