You know how you have those times when you don't know what to say? Like when a card comes around the office and you just sign your name as you don't know what expression to put with it.
Our most often greeting from friends upon meeting our girls and one that we are most uncomfortable with is "Congratulations"
We don't keep track of who says it, and it takes us back a moment, but we quickly get over it. Congratulations isn't the right word though.
You see, our girls came through horrendous situations. It would be wonderful if this job of ours wasn't needed. This is and isn't what we want. This is and isn't an instant family. This is above and beyond all a job, a responsibility, something that we were driven to because we felt it was right, but unsure why.
Now we have two beautiful little girls that we have to take care of today and prepare them for their unknown tomorrow.
Really, if the bioparents really did what they are/were supposed to we either wouldn't have them in the first place or we would be giving them back in early October.
This is one of those situations... one which I would just sign my name on the card and pass it on as I don't know what to say, but from this side, Congratulations just doesn't feel right.
Maybe the most heartfelt reaction ever to meeting the girls has been from folks that have experienced foster care first hand. Took the girls to see a friend this weekend and they loved him... He just told us "thank you for what you are doing, this means a lot to me"
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